Parental Infidelity and Children’s Reactions: A Case Study in a Filipino Family

Jame Bryan Lamberte Batara


A child first develops within the family environment. Disruptions to a functional family affect a child, especially in his/her psychological development. One of the alarming issues a family faces is the infidelity of the mother. With this, the present study conducted a case study that looks into the reactions and perceptions of the children upon exposure to their mother’s infidelity. Both the interviews and psychological tests indicated that a parent’s infidelity has a debilitating impact towards the children’s perceptions about their parents, to relationships, towards trust, towards themselves, to the act of infidelity, and to other vital areas in their lives. The immediate and observable impacts following exposure to infidelity provided valuable insights regarding its implications to a growing child.

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